Retirement Coaching Insights: Working In Your Third Act?

Scroll through any retirement Facebook group and you’ll see the same question come up again and again: One group I’m a member of had over 400 responses to the question:

“Is anyone working part-time after retirement just to help ends meet?”

The responses are fast, honest, and revealing. Three themes emerged.

Some people say:

  • “I have to.”
  • “Pension isn’t enough.”
  • “If I didn’t work, I wouldn’t eat.”

Others say:

  • “I love it.”
  • “It keeps me sane.”
  • “It pays for travel and fun.”

And a third group says “Nope. I’m done.”

At first glance, it looks like a simple question about money. It’s not. It’s a window into how retirement is actually being lived—and where it’s breaking down.

What’s Really Going On

There are five patterns in the data I analyzed:

  1. Retirement is no longer a clean exit
  2. There are three very different retirement realities
  3. Healthcare is the hidden driver
  4. Flexibility matters more than income
  5. Identity doesn’t retire easily

Retirement is no longer a clean exit

For many people, retirement isn’t a stop. It’s a shift.

  • 2–3 days a week
  • Seasonal work
  • Consulting or “as needed” roles
  • Gig work or small businesses

This isn’t accidental. It’s the new normal.

There are three very different retirement realities

Survival Mode

Working because you have to.

  • Social Security isn’t enough
  • Savings were depleted
  • Healthcare costs are crushing
  • Inflation is relentless

The tone here is heavy: “I’ll work as long as I’m able.”

Supplement Mode

Working to support lifestyle.

  • Travel
  • Dining out
  • Extra cushion
  • Covering rising costs

This group has more choice. Work is helpful, not essential.

Purpose Mode

Working because it adds to life.

  • Structure
  • Social connection
  • Mental stimulation
  • A reason to get out of the house

Comments like “it keeps me among humans” and “it keeps me sane” show something deeper:

Retirement is not just a financial transition. It’s a human one.

Healthcare is the hidden driver

This one jumps off the page. People are working:

  • To bridge the gap to Medicare
  • To keep employer-sponsored insurance
  • To afford medications

For many, it’s not optional. It’s strategic survival.

Flexibility matters more than income

The most appealing jobs aren’t the highest paying.

They are:

  • 10–20 hours a week
  • “Call me if you need me” roles
  • Seasonal or school-based schedules
  • Work you can say yes or no to

This is a huge insight:

People don’t want more work. They want more control.

Identity doesn’t retire easily

A surprising number of people go back to what they already know:

  • Teachers substitute
  • Nurses go PRN (as needed)
  • Tradespeople take small jobs
  • Former employees consult

Why?

Because competence feels good. And identity doesn’t just switch off at 65.

The Emotional Undercurrent

Beneath the practical responses is something more raw:

  • Anxiety about money running out
  • Frustration with rising costs
  • Regret about past decisions
  • Fear of aging out of the ability to work
  • Exhaustion after a lifetime of effort

And right alongside that:

  • Joy in small, meaningful work
  • Pride in staying active
  • Gratitude for flexibility
  • Fulfillment in connection and contribution

Retirement, it turns out, is emotionally complex.

A Retirement by Design Interpretation

Retirement by design refers to a conscious process for designing your third act, versus simply settling. This is exactly why I use the phrase:

Retirement is not a finish line. It’s a redesign.

What these responses show is not failure.

They show what happens when retirement is approached by default instead of by design.

Design Principle #1: Work doesn’t have to end—it has to evolve

The question is not: “Will I work in retirement?”

The better question is: “What role does work play in the life I want now?”

  • Income?
  • Structure?
  • Purpose?
  • Social connection?

When you answer that intentionally, work becomes a tool—not a burden.

Design Principle #2: Financial design and life design must be integrated

Too many people treat retirement as a math problem.

It’s not. It’s math plus:

  • energy
  • health
  • relationships
  • meaning
  • lifestyle

Working part-time isn’t the issue. Unplanned dependence on it is.

Design Principle #3: Build flexibility before you need it

The people who seem most at peace are those who have options:

  • consulting
  • part-time roles
  • multiple income streams
  • skills they can still use

They’re not asking, “Can I find a job?”

They’re deciding, “Do I want to do this?”

That’s a very different place to stand.

Design Principle #4: Don’t underestimate the human side of retirement

One of the strongest signals in these responses:

People don’t just miss income.

They miss:

  • rhythm
  • relevance
  • interaction
  • feeling useful

If you don’t design for that, you’ll end up solving it accidentally—with a job.

The Bottom Line

Working in retirement is not the problem. Working without intention is:

  • Some people are working because they have to.
  • Some because they want to.
  • Some because they don’t yet know how else to live this next chapter.

That’s the opportunity. Because when you step back and design it, you can create a version of retirement where:

  • work is optional
  • income is intentional
  • time is protected
  • and your days actually feel the way you want them to feel

That’s Retirement by Design.

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Dr. Kevin Nourse is a certified retirement coach helping people flourish in retirement. He founded Nourse Leadership Strategies, a coaching firm based in Southern California. Contact him at 760.237.0045 or kevin@nourseleadership.com

(C) Kevin Nourse, 2026

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